From a Woman to a Leader Podcast

Welcome to ‘From a Woman to a Leader,’ a podcast dedicated to discussing women’s unique challenges in tech leadership and providing actionable tips to help overcome those challenges and grow your career in the tech industry.
In each episode, I will speak with successful women in tech who have navigated the industry and come out on top, sharing their stories, insights, and advice for other women looking to do the same.
Whether you’re just starting out in your tech career or a seasoned professional looking to take the next step, this podcast is for you.

Everyone tells you confidence comes from competence. Do the work, get good, and the feeling will follow.

Tori Jenae doesn't buy it. She has three psychology degrees, ran HR for a 7,000-person company by the age of 30, and has spent 14 years coaching high achievers — and what she sees is women who are objectively excellent and still waiting to be found out. Her argument: confidence isn't built on competence. It's built on resilience, and on healing whatever shook your confidence in the first place.

In this conversation we get very specific about where self-doubt actually comes from, and what to do with it on a normal Tuesday.

In this episode:

• Why doubt shows up every time you level up — and why that's the correct response• The ”badass list”: 20 things you were scared of and did anyway, and why it works• Why big swings fail and 1% a week doesn't — the brain science behind self-sabotage• How one sentence from a fifth-grade teacher shaped 18 years of what she believed she could do• The difference between ”vent up” and ”vent down,” and who you should actually be talking to

About Tori: Tori Jenae is a Transformational Life Strategist with three degrees in psychology, a background in HR leadership, and deep training in Energy Medicine, functional medicine, nervous system science, and spiritual development. Born into a world of addiction and trauma, she rebuilt her life from the ground up at 17, completely sober and entirely self-funded. She has been coaching since 2010, working holistically across identity, relationships, business, family, and health. Clients stay with her for years, refer their spouses and children, and credit her in published books. She works with international clients from Beverly Hills, California.

Connect with Tori:Website: https://www.torijenae.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tori.jenae/

Connect with Limor:Website: https://limorbergman.comPodcast: https://limorbergman.com/podcast/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/limorbergman/Substack: https://limorbergman.substack.comCoaching: https://limorbergman.com/coaching/

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Confidence Doesn’t Come From Competence | Tori Jenae | From a Woman to a Leader

Everyone tells you confidence comes from competence. Do the work, get good, and the feeling will follow. Tori Jenae doesn't buy it. She has three psychology degrees, ran HR for a 7,000-person company by the age of 30, and has spent 14 years coaching high achievers — and what she sees is women who are objectively excellent and still waiting [...]

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